07 November 2016
Accepting Help (My bags are heavy.)
I carry too much.
On Sundays I carry a diaper bag, a Sunday school bag for me, a Sunday school bag for Jane and her church backpack full of stuff for her to look at/use during worship (although we've been having her carry it on the way home I usually have it in my hands). On the first Sundays of the month I'm also carrying a tote bag of groceries to donate to The Shepherd's Market food pantry. If I'm helping with video I carry the church's Mac laptop in another bag too. And of course carrying/wearing the baby, although Shawn handles that when he's with me.
People usually ask me if I want help, especially if Shawn isn't with me. My answer is an automatic, "I got it, thanks."
Because I do.
But sometimes help would be welcome. Help is needed. The bags are too heavy.
This is true for my metaphorical bags. They are heavy.
I'd like to get a hair cut, but arranging child care with an appointment has been tricky, and after one attempt I gave up.
I have some side work to do, and it's hard to concentrate. I need a couple hours to sit alone with my computer and get it done.
My house is messy and the piles of papers and magazines are stacking up. We just had a birthday party and I cleaned like a madwoman and hid even more junk. But the mess still mocks me. You're a stay-at-home mom and your house looks like this. Failure.
These bags are so heavy.
I am averse to asking for help. So averse. Because often I will be disappointed.
A church example -- I filled in for the video recorder a couple weeks ago and filmed/processed the sermon video. I plugged in the extra camera battery to charge, but I forgot to put it back in the bag after Sunday school. I emailed and asked the new communications director, who is at the church every day, if she could just go get it and put it back in the bag. (Instead of me making a special trip to church just to unplug a battery.) She emailed back to say she was on her way to do it and I let it go, assuming it was taken care of. When the regular video guy asked me about it I told him she should know where it is. But yesterday he told me they finally found the battery plugged into the wall -- she had no idea what he was talking about when he asked her.
Basically the lesson from that and the way I feel about A LOT of stuff is if you want something done you HAVE to do it yourself. People will disappoint you everywhere you turn.
But does that really apply to my heavy bags?